Cuffing Season : Playoffs

@AbruptnDemandin  
The annual cuffing season Playoffs has kicked off officially as of February 14. Congratulations to many of you who have made it through the cuffing season combine, the preseason and the season. For the entire week  you get to bask in glory for your accomplishments through  hard work and determination. Finally, you made the cuffing playoffs and officially you are signed to the roster (well until next combine at least). For the people  that enjoyed a beautiful Valentine's day with their "team" i am here to tell you, you may think the difficult part is over but it has only begun.




Many people make the mistake and get comfortable, people think that because they made it past Valentine's day that their relationship will last, well my friend you are wrong. This time frame from Valentine's day to the first official warm day of the year is crucial. Most people get ahead of themselves and begin to relax, this can lead to your demise. There are two main reasons people who made it through the holiday; don't make it to summer time. Let's evaluate these reasons :

1) Comfort

Being comfortable in most phases of life is a death sentence,  when one becomes comfortable one loses the drive/ passion that one had for the situation,  hence;  becoming lazy or giving less effort to the actual goal in mind. For example, The effort you made on Thanksgiving to secure your roster spot, you are no longer thinking about going above and beyond for your mate due to the fact; you feel secure in your position. In all actuality your team expects the same treatment and better than what you have already put forth. The expectation for your position is the consistency that you have shown over the previous months. Too bad you are in a state of comfort that you don't realize you aren't giving that effort you did during the season.  Playoff time is more important than the season,  this is a one and done situation,  the pass your team would have gave you in December won't work now,  you will be cut quicker if you aren't performing to the level of expectation.  You have to be clutch,  don't get content in your position be the stand out or you are going to get put out. Effort is the key

2) Appearance

The #1 reason for playoff cuts are appearance,  you think that 15 pounds you put on during the season from eating out and shacking up with your team is cute?  It's not,  "in-love " weight is a silent killer of relationships,  one realization most people in relationships don't come to grips with is ;  we are shallow creatures ,  looks are as important or more important that other fundamental factors in relationships,  and to be honest there is nothing wrong with that. When two people meet the first attraction is appearance,  it's rare one gets to explore another's mind and behavior before getting to meet them, it's only right that appearance is a main factor in choosing your partner.  With that said,  that "in-love " weight has got your team's eye wandering to a prospect that looks how you looked when they initially scouted you for the position. Now you don't have the same physique and don't wear the same attire that your team admired the first instance you were noticed. This leads to interest lost, don't mess up your cuffing season because of change in appearance,  work as hard as you do when you are single to keep your appearance up and it will pay off in the long run for your relationship. In our culture this topic is too taboo to speak on and usually leads to feeling insecure within the relationship. insecurity in relationships is a first class ticket to Alonely Season,  So be healthy and be attractive


For those who made it to the next level of cuffing;   kudos to you, remember to keep up the good work and stay the beautiful person that your significant other fell in love with. For the rest of you slackers that fell victim to the holiday cut: 

I requested help from my good friend CBreedy to help give you advice on dealing with your "Alonely Season".


Alonely Season.


CBreedy
Trying to figure out what's next? Well don't fret I got you... The first thing you need to understand is - It's OK this happens to everyone at least once, maybe twice in their life. I get it, it hurts, you're pissed, upset & all emotional. But, can you honestly say you didn't see this coming? Lets start at looking at the time leading up to this point... It's important to know what your annoying tendencies are so that you don't carry it on to the next potential cuffing situation. You know what they are, I'm sure he/she has told you and you just ignored it, well you see where that got you now. Now look at who you were trying to cuff. We're you two REALLY compatible or were you just rushing to find someone so you wouldn't be the last one picked? One of the most important lessons I learned recently is - just because it feels good right now doesn't mean it's supposed to last forever. Basically stop trying to fall in love with everyone, live in the moment and have fun with it. Once it's over be happy you had that time with that person.

So now that we got all that out the way lets work on what to do after we get cut.
 1. Don't ever let the old cuff catch you slipping. The next few months are critical you need to be out there looking cute. No running out the house looking like yesterday, get yourself dressed. This goes for men and women there's nothing worse than seeing someone look disheveled and they blame it on a break up. Get over yourself! If you look good you'll feel good.
 2. As hard as it might be don't go snooping on your old boo. You might think you want to know who you were replaced with, but trust me you don't. Whoever the person is now you can never be them. I don't care if you look better, sex better or have more money than their new boo. There is a reason why you got cut, deal with that shit and stop comparing yourself to the next person.
 3. Get back out there! Sulk for about a week then start meeting new people. I did not just give you a free hoe pass. When I say meet people I mean go out on dates get to know other people mix and mingle.
 4. Now if you want to be a hoe that's cool too, hoes are needed in the world. If this is what you desire make sure you keep condoms on deck. I'm here for everyone's hoe season just please do it safe.
 5. Don't be messy. Sigh, this is by far my biggest challenge when someone I was really feeling cuts me off. I get drunk and make phone calls and send texts I know I shouldn't send. Looking for "closure" he/she don't want you anymore - there's your closure! The most important thing to remember is there is less than 4 months until the summer time and honey that is when it's time to flourish!


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