Perfect person?
Perfect person is your perfect compliment to your personality, lifestyle and situation. We tend to believe it has to do with what you want, it's more about what you need. As a child I wanted a Lamborghini, I'm 6'3 now, that's not what I need. Being in love with the idea of a person is completely different from being with that person; It is more important to find who compliments you. A perfect relationship is less about money, looks, class, creed, etc. A perfect relationship is solely about the love and balance one has with one another.
For example
Jay-z and Beyonce, two successful and famous people , in a Jay-z song he describes wanting to start a family with Beyonce but she still in her prime of her career and he has to "allow her, her time to serve". he has to fall back on his family plans with her so that she can continue being the successful woman that she is. The whole second verse pretty much sums up the idea of this post. From what he infers it seems he had to let Beyonce go for awhile until the time was right for them to be together. Fortunately, they are together and eventually got to the family stage years down the line. I would really love to dissect the relationship from that point on. It seems like they separated and eventually, got to the right timing. The issue with this scenario is the money and fame, the average woman wouldn't give a regular guy the chance to get back with her after the moment he let go, a wasteful thing PRIDE is.
We don't know the behind the scenes things that were done to keep those two together, as you can see, at a moment he had the perfect woman, due to their careers; the timing of his desires were not on time with him having his perfect woman.
Perfect timing
(Keep in mind Jay is in his 30's when Beyonce is 23)
Just to continue on the Jay-z song, at a point he is reasonable and states: to paraphrase, is it fair to ask her to give up her career for him, at 23? because he wouldn't. This is the most important part about timing, A lot of young men prioritize their career and bachelor life before attempting commit to a woman, to me this is the biggest disconnect amongst men and women. Ask a woman in her late 20's her list of criteria for a man, finance and sexual prowess will definitely be top 5. How can a man achieve these things with out experience and priority? When your 17 year old boyfriend breaks up with you to pursue his education and and playboy lifestyle it isn't that you are not good enough, it's you aren't apart of the plan at this MOMENT. Stop being salty and accept that perfect man back in your life, have you ever heard the expression, "sow wild oats"? . Stop expecting people with out experience to be mature enough to make great life decisions.
Ever dated a complete asshole and wondered afterwards how you let this person infiltrate your defenses? It's called perfect timing, that one liner you said could never work on you, it just did, because; of the situation you were in when you met that person, Think about where your mind is today as compared to a decade of go, so much maturity, prioritized thoughts, what worked on you a decade a go wouldn't stand a chance today. We get caught up on timing and measuring when and how people need to approach us, that we sometimes miss out on what was meant for us. Think about how many viable relationship options you may have had in your life after a break up, but; you chose not to take that man/woman serious because of the situation in life that had your mind out of order. In essence you might be asking your perfect person to put up a competition with you and your insecurity with relationships. How can you find your soulmate when you aren't open and giving him/her a fair shot? Be reasonable, that's unfair. Perfect timing can be reached by the worthy and unworthy, don't bank on it as much.
Romance and Finance?
Dating is a financial burden men must take the brunt of. With that said men know from an early age "ain't no romance, without finance ". We would love to be in a good financial spot in order to date you. Ladies, if you had to chose between laying up with a dude who lives at home with ten people in his home or with a guy who has his own spot, which are you choosing 9/10 times? Men are knowledgeable in that sense, it won't last long to be with a woman if you can't provide for her. We rather be alone to get our self together than be with a woman who wants more than we can provide. One of the main causes of infidelity by the way.
Just to emphasize this point, Men want to be your Knight in shining armor, we watch the Disney movies, we understand that the prince gets the girl, we have to become royalty first. No matter how much love their is in a relationship, If the man is not handling his duties as a man, he knows a woman will step out. That's the main reason why we want to get our shit together before we commit to a woman, I can not put that any more simple. Yes I know, about the idea of struggling together, in a lot of cases this never works. There is a reason why men seem to be ready to settle in their late 20's and early 30's, more than likely they are in a good financial place and have had enough dating experience that he knows what he needs in a mate.
However, I must say that this plan we have as men is not full proof, due to the facts women are emotional and have expectations. A woman would feel insulted if you told her she is the right woman for you, but; at this time you can't commit to her because you have a plan in life. She would feel that love and relationship is more important to keep than you pursuing experience. There is a reason why old men married young women in history, These men were allowed time to gain experience, where women don't require it as much. It's in our genetics, 100 years ago 35 year old men married 15 year olds, why are you mad that the man in your age group wants to gain experience?
Quick Story
I had a girl that was in love with me and vice versa, In my head I saw myself with her. Unfortunately, we met in our teenage years, I had few experiences with women and I had a plan to become a good provider, that relationship would suffer in the meantime because of the distance that was between us. To me, giving her and myself space to mature and get some experience would have us prepared for eventually starting a life together, I could of simply cuffed her, hurt her in the process and vice versa. Instead I chose to let her go because the timing for a long distance wife wasn't right in my life. Right person wrong time.
"No good deed goes unpunished "- Oscar Wilde
What we as men think is us trying to save their feelings is us actually giving reason for them to hate us, perception is something you gain with education and maturity. As much as we don't make the effort to see it their way, is the same lack of effort from women to see our point of view.
To her, I'm probably an asshole that wouldn't satisfy her Disney fairy-tale. I'm probably inconsiderate and and gave up on the only woman who truly loved me. That I missed out on my soulmate to pursue hoes. I say I cared about her So much that I made the best decision within my knowledge at that point in life to eventually have our desired future. I just thought me gaining experience while single and allowing the same for her, would hurt each other less than being in a relationship and going through life's trials and tribulations.
Last thought:
A man has to learn to be a man before he can be a husband to a woman. Women are great at seeing potential, Give that man time to develop into your King.
Contact:
Email: ratchetsophistication@gmail.com
Twitter:
@Abruptndemandin
@TheLaurenWay
Facebook:
Endito Curtis
Perfect person is your perfect compliment to your personality, lifestyle and situation. We tend to believe it has to do with what you want, it's more about what you need. As a child I wanted a Lamborghini, I'm 6'3 now, that's not what I need. Being in love with the idea of a person is completely different from being with that person; It is more important to find who compliments you. A perfect relationship is less about money, looks, class, creed, etc. A perfect relationship is solely about the love and balance one has with one another.
For example
Jay-z and Beyonce, two successful and famous people , in a Jay-z song he describes wanting to start a family with Beyonce but she still in her prime of her career and he has to "allow her, her time to serve". he has to fall back on his family plans with her so that she can continue being the successful woman that she is. The whole second verse pretty much sums up the idea of this post. From what he infers it seems he had to let Beyonce go for awhile until the time was right for them to be together. Fortunately, they are together and eventually got to the family stage years down the line. I would really love to dissect the relationship from that point on. It seems like they separated and eventually, got to the right timing. The issue with this scenario is the money and fame, the average woman wouldn't give a regular guy the chance to get back with her after the moment he let go, a wasteful thing PRIDE is.
We don't know the behind the scenes things that were done to keep those two together, as you can see, at a moment he had the perfect woman, due to their careers; the timing of his desires were not on time with him having his perfect woman.
Perfect timing
(Keep in mind Jay is in his 30's when Beyonce is 23)
Just to continue on the Jay-z song, at a point he is reasonable and states: to paraphrase, is it fair to ask her to give up her career for him, at 23? because he wouldn't. This is the most important part about timing, A lot of young men prioritize their career and bachelor life before attempting commit to a woman, to me this is the biggest disconnect amongst men and women. Ask a woman in her late 20's her list of criteria for a man, finance and sexual prowess will definitely be top 5. How can a man achieve these things with out experience and priority? When your 17 year old boyfriend breaks up with you to pursue his education and and playboy lifestyle it isn't that you are not good enough, it's you aren't apart of the plan at this MOMENT. Stop being salty and accept that perfect man back in your life, have you ever heard the expression, "sow wild oats"? . Stop expecting people with out experience to be mature enough to make great life decisions.
Ever dated a complete asshole and wondered afterwards how you let this person infiltrate your defenses? It's called perfect timing, that one liner you said could never work on you, it just did, because; of the situation you were in when you met that person, Think about where your mind is today as compared to a decade of go, so much maturity, prioritized thoughts, what worked on you a decade a go wouldn't stand a chance today. We get caught up on timing and measuring when and how people need to approach us, that we sometimes miss out on what was meant for us. Think about how many viable relationship options you may have had in your life after a break up, but; you chose not to take that man/woman serious because of the situation in life that had your mind out of order. In essence you might be asking your perfect person to put up a competition with you and your insecurity with relationships. How can you find your soulmate when you aren't open and giving him/her a fair shot? Be reasonable, that's unfair. Perfect timing can be reached by the worthy and unworthy, don't bank on it as much.
Romance and Finance?
Dating is a financial burden men must take the brunt of. With that said men know from an early age "ain't no romance, without finance ". We would love to be in a good financial spot in order to date you. Ladies, if you had to chose between laying up with a dude who lives at home with ten people in his home or with a guy who has his own spot, which are you choosing 9/10 times? Men are knowledgeable in that sense, it won't last long to be with a woman if you can't provide for her. We rather be alone to get our self together than be with a woman who wants more than we can provide. One of the main causes of infidelity by the way.
Just to emphasize this point, Men want to be your Knight in shining armor, we watch the Disney movies, we understand that the prince gets the girl, we have to become royalty first. No matter how much love their is in a relationship, If the man is not handling his duties as a man, he knows a woman will step out. That's the main reason why we want to get our shit together before we commit to a woman, I can not put that any more simple. Yes I know, about the idea of struggling together, in a lot of cases this never works. There is a reason why men seem to be ready to settle in their late 20's and early 30's, more than likely they are in a good financial place and have had enough dating experience that he knows what he needs in a mate.
However, I must say that this plan we have as men is not full proof, due to the facts women are emotional and have expectations. A woman would feel insulted if you told her she is the right woman for you, but; at this time you can't commit to her because you have a plan in life. She would feel that love and relationship is more important to keep than you pursuing experience. There is a reason why old men married young women in history, These men were allowed time to gain experience, where women don't require it as much. It's in our genetics, 100 years ago 35 year old men married 15 year olds, why are you mad that the man in your age group wants to gain experience?
Quick Story
I had a girl that was in love with me and vice versa, In my head I saw myself with her. Unfortunately, we met in our teenage years, I had few experiences with women and I had a plan to become a good provider, that relationship would suffer in the meantime because of the distance that was between us. To me, giving her and myself space to mature and get some experience would have us prepared for eventually starting a life together, I could of simply cuffed her, hurt her in the process and vice versa. Instead I chose to let her go because the timing for a long distance wife wasn't right in my life. Right person wrong time.
What we as men think is us trying to save their feelings is us actually giving reason for them to hate us, perception is something you gain with education and maturity. As much as we don't make the effort to see it their way, is the same lack of effort from women to see our point of view.
To her, I'm probably an asshole that wouldn't satisfy her Disney fairy-tale. I'm probably inconsiderate and and gave up on the only woman who truly loved me. That I missed out on my soulmate to pursue hoes. I say I cared about her So much that I made the best decision within my knowledge at that point in life to eventually have our desired future. I just thought me gaining experience while single and allowing the same for her, would hurt each other less than being in a relationship and going through life's trials and tribulations.
Last thought:
A man has to learn to be a man before he can be a husband to a woman. Women are great at seeing potential, Give that man time to develop into your King.
Contact:
Email: ratchetsophistication@gmail.com
Twitter:
@Abruptndemandin
@TheLaurenWay
Facebook:
Endito Curtis
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