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RF: Top 5 ways to keep your resolution.

@AbrupTnDemandiN



We are in the third week of the new year and its safe to say a lot of us aren't keeping up with the promise we made to ourselves to be better individuals for 2016. I'm not here to judge, more so; to give a few pointers in how to stay on path with your resolutions.

Here are my top 5 ways to keep your resolutions:


1) Speak it into existence
It is important to envision your self doing what you want to do. Basically, if you can believe it, you can achieve it. Tell yourself daily, hourly, etc. that you can achieve your goal. For example; if your goal for the new year is to lose weight, recite to yourself every morning, " I will be healthy". Quick and simple reminder that can help you make better decisions in health during the day.

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Happy Ratchet Friday
@AbruptnDemandin

Are you a savage?

30 and Wise: The final countdown 10-1

Yeah I promised the final countdown on Sunday but I was a drunk of course and this would have just been horrible. I would have probably wrote "n words" aren't shit and alcohol is the devil.. Definitely would have told you love is for suckers.  Hungover me isn't wise. This may or may not have been my logic that morning.

Just playing I am awesome. Life just begun pretty much. :)

Before you give you the finale I would like to take the minute to give a shout out to Endi, @Abruptndemandin, on reaching 29 years young. Go on his page tell him Happy Birthday!!!  He's somehow over all these years became one of my favorite people despite always debating me and his his irrational logic. Maybe in his old age he will become more logical. That was my exact birthday wish.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ENDI!!!!  

If you have not yet please read the  life lessons 30-21 and 20-11.  Just Click the links.

And the final 10 begin.............

10. The Best Nights Are Usually Unplanned – I have celebrated 30 birthdays and most have been awesome but strangely enough those random nights out with my friends are some of the best nights I will forever remember. Again, Let go and just let life take you stop planning everything. The universe may surprise you. 

9. Do What Makes You Happy – This lesson I learned just recently. We are so caught up in pleasing our parents, friends, and everyone else that we forget to do what makes us happy. WE CANT PLEASE EVERYONE. This is your life and only you have to live with the results. The people that love us want what is best for us in their mind but what is best for you is what will make you happy.

8.  Balance is Key – Throughout most these life lessons I have posted, I hope you seen the balance in a few of the lessons. Too much of anything is never good. Balance your life out with everything that matters most. Don’t overwork or over play. Don’t neglect your friends for love or love for friends. With all dualities make sure your life is balanced out.

7. Every Ending is Just a New Beginning – Life is a giant cycle. Even in death it is not truly over. We see it with the moon and the seasons that everything will always come full circle again. Sometimes we are so caught up with the ending of summer that we miss out on the beauty of the leaves. We have to start appreciating that things will end but we should be ready for this new beginning. Simply move on before you miss out on a blessing.

6. Enjoy The Journey – We know we live in this deadline of a society that we really miss out on appreciating some major aspects on our way to success. Make a plan on how you will achieve that success. Look back and see how far you have come. Most importantly stop sometimes and celebrate where you are now. We will never relive some of these moments ever again so appreciate them now while you can truly revel in them.  One of the most amazing times of my life was college. I have the career and life now but that journey was just something I will always appreciate and miss.

5. Everything Can Change In The Blink Of An Eye – You just never know when the last time you will ever speak to someone or someone comes into your life and changes it forever. It is crazy how life works with its cycle of endings and beginnings so be prepared for the good and the bad. Tell people that you love you love them now never wait. Don’t hold grudges. Always prepare yourself because you just never know when everything will change.

4. Love is a Verb – If you hated English and grammar classes like I did I will refresh your memory. A verb is the part of speech that describes an action or occurrence or indicates a state of being. Love is just something you do, it’s not something you have to think about doing. Once you truly understand this you show the people you love by being love. Stop looking for love and just be it and watch who finds you.

3. Keep Learning – Even after I gave you these life lessons I hope to add a million more over the years. I will always keep a memory and will always read a book. Learning is what makes us great. Every single day learn something new. Even if it is a small fact you learned something.

2. LIFE WILL ALWAYS GO ON - Whatever happens life will go on. Just getting to this final lesson is a testament in itself. We all lost people we love, felt depression, had heartbreaks, and probably hit rock bottom but look at us now.  Life will go on if we give up or keep pushing through so why not make it through. We made it!!!!

The Ultimate Lesson I learned

1. God Laughs When You Tell Him Your Plans -  Make sure you have Plan A but also up to  Plan ZZZZZZZZZZZ. I am 30 now and I wouldn’t say life is getting easier but I understand now to keep pushing when my plans get rerouted. It’s crazy when I reflect back on how I wanted my life to be at 30 it is nothing as I envisioned it but I have everything want. We tend to want our plan to be exactly like this story we saw a child and then get disappointed when it doesn’t pan out exactly.  Or focus on what other people want for our lives. I am not this billionaire astronaut leaving Venus on my way back to earth anticipating the party my NBA husband is throwing in our mansion. However that 10 year old Lauren imagined this perfection that didn’t exist. My life is pretty dope because its real and it has a lot to do with the lessons I learned on the way. Shout out to the family that allowed me to grow, friends that seen decades of ups and downs, and everyone that just loved me ever in my 30 years.  Sometimes you just have to understand that our initial plans are not our ultimate plan for life. Love who you are now because all the detours made you this way. Most setbacks I looked back and understood exactly the path I needed to go. Hindsight really is 20/20 so lets's trust that our plans are not always the plan God wants for us. It's probably something grander.


Hope you enjoyed the lessons. Make Sure you wished Endi a Happy Birthday. We both accept gifts all month long. Check back for all the new posts we have stories to share.


Peace & Blessings,

Lauren
@thelaurenway

Almost 30 And Wise - Life Lessons 20-11

Today is my last day in my 20s!!!! I'm still accepting gifts all month. I know some of yall don't get paid until next week. I'm completing all my ain't shitness tonight so I can be wise in the morning.  If you haven't read Lessons 30-21 please check them out here first. Let’s the countdown continue with  20-11

20. Drink More Water – It’s really crazy that I have to tell anyone this. You're an adult drink water. Today’s world just does not focus on the health we need until it is too late. The older we get health is probably the most important element. Let’s exercise more, eat healthier, so in our old age we can just chill. You only have one body, exercise more, stop eating the junk and DRINK MORE WATER!!!

19. Make Your Only Competition...You  – Again this society has a way of making us compete but when you focus on being happier, healthier, wiser etc. than you were last year there is absolutely no way you can lose. The fact that I can say I am the best Lauren yet at the age 30, I feel like I am successful.

18. Trust the Timing of God -   Things will always happen exactly when they are supposed to and we won’t understand why it is happening. It isn’t until we get more pieces to the puzzle that we realize it was all working in our favor. Again allow whatever is being taken from you to go without resistance you just might be blessed with something great. Trust.

17. No one is perfect – That includes you. I do not understand this notion of perfection that we try and achieve. It’s ok because none of us are and none of us will ever be. None of us really know what we are doing anyway. Just like you are trying to guide through life the next person is probably struggling the same. Let’s end this idea of perfection and just embrace our uniqueness.

16. Let Go of Thinking Won’t Be Happy As Soon As You (insert whatever here) – You won’t finally be happy when you find a get in a relationship. You won’t finally be happy when you move. You won’t finally be happy when you lose weight. Happiness is something that happens now. So be happy now.

15. You cannot change people – The moment I started accepting people for who they are my relationships got better. This isn’t condoning bad/toxic behavior because as a friend we have to do everything to help but it is accepting we shouldn’t make someone into something they are not. Accept people exactly how they because that’s how God made them and only when they are truly ready to change they will.

14. Love People From a Distance, Sometimes – This ties into accepting people as they are. Sometimes we do face friends/relatives who just refuse to change. You cannot change them and sometimes their negative energy will most certainly affects yours negatively. This point you have to just remove them from your space and just love them from a distance. It does not mean you love them any less but you have to protect yourself first.

13. Remember Perception  – If you have a point in a circle and everyone sat on the circumference not one person would see that point the same. Not one. The people next to you will have the most similar view while the person farthest will see something completely different. If we all realize that all our lives play out like this and learn that sometimes perspectives will be different. We should learn to understand all these perspectives instead of bashing what we do not understand.

12. Watch What You Speak – Writing your intentions down is powerful but speaking them, even thinking them may be the most powerful manifestation ever. It is amazing how we speak so many things into existence and still speak negatively. Stop the negative thinking and talking and focus on what you want.

11. Find Your Passion and Don’t Stop – One of the most common misconceptions with finding your passion is the belief that you have to get paid for it. Trust me that is ideal but it can be just a hobby as well. Just do what you love whether you have to wake up to a 9-5 that has nothing to do with your passion. As long as you figure out why you are here and then do it till you die you lived a great life.

Be sure to check back tomorrow I'll be wise as shit. 


Lauren
@Thelaurenway