I just always thought things would get clearer. Especially at our age now where the games should seize and focus on bettering our lives and family right? Naw! Now there's a status called "situationship". The @$?! is a situationship and why would you ever want to be in one of those? For lack of a better explanation I blame men...and their commitment issues. And not being honest from the jump as to what they really want from us. I don't put timeframes on anything, you know I believe in the natural progression of the universe. Just because I want to see a full moon tonight I have to wait 16 days for that cycle to complete. As women we tend to jump the gun when it comes to relationships. After an amazing first date my hoes chances of getting in contact with me get slimmer. By the third they extinct. So my question to you is if we feel we reached the natural progression of a relationship, is it fair to ask for a title?
And I leave this tweet with you too.
@Thelaurenway
@Abruptndemandin
A person is entitled to feel and do as they want, So Yes it's fair to ask for a title, however, just like Newton's third law, for every action there is a reaction, and you better be ready for that reaction. Your grade school example was cute, but lets be real here, when u were 8 were u considering that u would have to perform fellatio on that boy? No, it was innocent attraction back then. Nowadays there are factors that attract you to another human being that doesn't make you want to claim them. Women love to play the victim with men not putting out their true intentions and i think that's bullshit, most women are too caught up in their fairy-tale to pay attention to the signs, at any given point a man will be looking for two things, a legit woman he can cuff or some ass, just So happens men are very capable of dealing with u as ass even after he figures out you aren't the one for him. I may be selling the men out when I say this but; we don't have commitment issues, if we don't cuff you, it's cause we don't want you like that, or we haven't made the decision cause we haven't received enough info to make it... what does a title mean in the first place? I blame women, What's the purpose of a title? It's your permission to do all the hoe stuff so you won't be called a hoe? It allows u to play house? A title won't stop a uncommitted person from being " for everybody", y'all need to focus more on the quality of the man instead of an imaginary agreement that gives u some right to act up when a "free spirit " does free spirit shit...
@Abruptndemandin
@Thelaurenway
The things you say make me laugh out loud. Don’t nobody want to do hoe shit. Most chicks, especially I, will cut off anyone else when really feeling a dude. It’s usually to save us from hearing “you not even my girl” to justify whatever hoe thing he wants to do. And that’s the purpose of a title. Cause you’re not gonna go into work every single day be called the receptionist, paying you like the receptionist when they giving you VP work. Eventually you’re going to want to the full benefits of the work you are doing. I make this analogy because like the employer, a man doesn’t feel the obligation or the responsibility to give her girlfriend benefits without that title. Just having female friends that confide in me I hear it all. I had a friend who I took in under my wing as a little sister at one point. Not to get into all her details but she essentially played the girlfriend role for close to two years and never got called a girlfriend. It literally came to a point where she invested so much she didn’t know how to walk away. And that story is all too common. We just don’t want to invest our time, feelings, and/or body into something that may never be especially if as men you already know she’s just good enough for now. I will say as women we really do jump the gun and allow our insecurities to want a relationship when all the ducks aren’t in order first. So the communication aspect of this of it all plays a major part but sometimes we just know what we want why don’t men. Disney just taught me Prince Charming gonna fight dragons and evil witches for me though so get over yall commitment issues. HA!
@Thelaurenway
@AbruptnDemandin : When I say hoe sh!t I mean allowing yourself to open up and do all the sexual things you desire with that man. I understand the analogy with work, but relationships business is too complicated to give such straight forward analogy. The issue you women have is that y'all are childish, if you are playing house with someone and he is out there doing questionable things with other women, you have a right to ask about it. You mean to tell me your biggest fear this response " Your not my girl... " lol. That's what bothers you, you feel you won't be able to express yourself because of that response? A man can play around with your health and emotions and you won't check him cause u are afraid he won't claim you in the moment?
#GROWUP
How about this, stop falling in love with hoe a$$ men and expecting them to be faithful gentlemen, that's not the nature of a "for everybody". What happens to y'all decent women is you pick up a hoe, then you think you can change that hoe into a house husband, then that hoe does what's in his nature.
STOP SAVING HOES women, embrace good men.
Now, your friend's situation dealing with her two year fling I'm sure there is more to it: a smart man will give a girl a title when he is ready for monogamy and is secure with his male responsibly to that woman which is subjective. Also keep in mind that a man can still deal with a woman even though he decides that woman has no future with him. Age is also a factor people lose the love of their life in college because it's right person wrong time scenarios. Men know what they want and exactly when they want it.
@Abruptndemandin
@Thelaurenway : But ex hoes make the best husbands this is a scientific fact. You're right BUT just in the fact we love the hoes too much and think we can change him. Other than that you're always wrong. So ladies and gentleman what can we take out of this.
1. Communicate Early - Always communicate early what each of you want out of the relationship and be HONEST. Don't say you are not looking for anything serious then get mad when he or she doesn't want it when you catch feelings. Understanding that you two don't want the same outcome can save you a lot of wasted time.
2. Be Patient - Especially if you communicated that you two may want a relationship eventually these things take time to develop. Getting into a serious relationship prematurely can be just as damaging.
3. Know when to stay and when to walk away - Like my friend there comes a point when you have to realize a relationship just aint gonna happen. People get way to comfortable with the fact they are getting more with less work and don't want the responsibility of a relationship. MOVE ON!! At this point you have to realize your worth. When you continue to allow things you aren't comfortable and/or happy with they will continue to do it to you. Stand up for yourself and walk away then.
4. You can't save hoes - YOU CAN NOT CHANGE ANYONE!!!! See people for who they are, there might be potential to change but that all depends on them.
Drops Mic
@Thelaurenway
@Abruptndemandin: I agree with your final points, women please pay attention and stop over thinking the situation, a man will show and tell you what he wants, it's your choice to accept it. To answer your question of if we go together:
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