30 and Wise: The final countdown 10-1

Yeah I promised the final countdown on Sunday but I was a drunk of course and this would have just been horrible. I would have probably wrote "n words" aren't shit and alcohol is the devil.. Definitely would have told you love is for suckers.  Hungover me isn't wise. This may or may not have been my logic that morning.

Just playing I am awesome. Life just begun pretty much. :)

Before you give you the finale I would like to take the minute to give a shout out to Endi, @Abruptndemandin, on reaching 29 years young. Go on his page tell him Happy Birthday!!!  He's somehow over all these years became one of my favorite people despite always debating me and his his irrational logic. Maybe in his old age he will become more logical. That was my exact birthday wish.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ENDI!!!!  

If you have not yet please read the  life lessons 30-21 and 20-11.  Just Click the links.

And the final 10 begin.............

10. The Best Nights Are Usually Unplanned – I have celebrated 30 birthdays and most have been awesome but strangely enough those random nights out with my friends are some of the best nights I will forever remember. Again, Let go and just let life take you stop planning everything. The universe may surprise you. 

9. Do What Makes You Happy – This lesson I learned just recently. We are so caught up in pleasing our parents, friends, and everyone else that we forget to do what makes us happy. WE CANT PLEASE EVERYONE. This is your life and only you have to live with the results. The people that love us want what is best for us in their mind but what is best for you is what will make you happy.

8.  Balance is Key – Throughout most these life lessons I have posted, I hope you seen the balance in a few of the lessons. Too much of anything is never good. Balance your life out with everything that matters most. Don’t overwork or over play. Don’t neglect your friends for love or love for friends. With all dualities make sure your life is balanced out.

7. Every Ending is Just a New Beginning – Life is a giant cycle. Even in death it is not truly over. We see it with the moon and the seasons that everything will always come full circle again. Sometimes we are so caught up with the ending of summer that we miss out on the beauty of the leaves. We have to start appreciating that things will end but we should be ready for this new beginning. Simply move on before you miss out on a blessing.

6. Enjoy The Journey – We know we live in this deadline of a society that we really miss out on appreciating some major aspects on our way to success. Make a plan on how you will achieve that success. Look back and see how far you have come. Most importantly stop sometimes and celebrate where you are now. We will never relive some of these moments ever again so appreciate them now while you can truly revel in them.  One of the most amazing times of my life was college. I have the career and life now but that journey was just something I will always appreciate and miss.

5. Everything Can Change In The Blink Of An Eye – You just never know when the last time you will ever speak to someone or someone comes into your life and changes it forever. It is crazy how life works with its cycle of endings and beginnings so be prepared for the good and the bad. Tell people that you love you love them now never wait. Don’t hold grudges. Always prepare yourself because you just never know when everything will change.

4. Love is a Verb – If you hated English and grammar classes like I did I will refresh your memory. A verb is the part of speech that describes an action or occurrence or indicates a state of being. Love is just something you do, it’s not something you have to think about doing. Once you truly understand this you show the people you love by being love. Stop looking for love and just be it and watch who finds you.

3. Keep Learning – Even after I gave you these life lessons I hope to add a million more over the years. I will always keep a memory and will always read a book. Learning is what makes us great. Every single day learn something new. Even if it is a small fact you learned something.

2. LIFE WILL ALWAYS GO ON - Whatever happens life will go on. Just getting to this final lesson is a testament in itself. We all lost people we love, felt depression, had heartbreaks, and probably hit rock bottom but look at us now.  Life will go on if we give up or keep pushing through so why not make it through. We made it!!!!

The Ultimate Lesson I learned

1. God Laughs When You Tell Him Your Plans -  Make sure you have Plan A but also up to  Plan ZZZZZZZZZZZ. I am 30 now and I wouldn’t say life is getting easier but I understand now to keep pushing when my plans get rerouted. It’s crazy when I reflect back on how I wanted my life to be at 30 it is nothing as I envisioned it but I have everything want. We tend to want our plan to be exactly like this story we saw a child and then get disappointed when it doesn’t pan out exactly.  Or focus on what other people want for our lives. I am not this billionaire astronaut leaving Venus on my way back to earth anticipating the party my NBA husband is throwing in our mansion. However that 10 year old Lauren imagined this perfection that didn’t exist. My life is pretty dope because its real and it has a lot to do with the lessons I learned on the way. Shout out to the family that allowed me to grow, friends that seen decades of ups and downs, and everyone that just loved me ever in my 30 years.  Sometimes you just have to understand that our initial plans are not our ultimate plan for life. Love who you are now because all the detours made you this way. Most setbacks I looked back and understood exactly the path I needed to go. Hindsight really is 20/20 so lets's trust that our plans are not always the plan God wants for us. It's probably something grander.


Hope you enjoyed the lessons. Make Sure you wished Endi a Happy Birthday. We both accept gifts all month long. Check back for all the new posts we have stories to share.


Peace & Blessings,

Lauren
@thelaurenway

Almost 30 And Wise - Life Lessons 30-21

It’s my birthday weekend! I will be 30 in 2 days!! If you see me out this weekend  I accept all monetary gifts, gift cards, coconut oil, certified checks or a shot of anything except for Vodka. You can also hit me up for my account numbers to Verizon Fios and Wireless, Peoples Gas, and/or Duquesne Light. (I never understood why its so hard for utility companies to take payment from another person like you getting paid)

Anyways, Endi and I been on a hiatus because we were out enjoying our summer but we are back. I hope you had just as a dope summer as we had. The stories we have to share from this summer alone will be enough to forgive us for being missing. So Stay tuned.

We thought to kick off our blog return and to celebrate my 3 decades on this earth with my 30 life lessons. I 'm transitioning from this 29 year old ain't shit chick to 30 and wise. So over these next three days I will give you my life lessons, so please be sure to come back all weekend. And we are off......

30. You Don't Have To Attend Every Party You're Invited To– This small statement has multiple meanings. The obvious meaning is literal. Being popular really isn’t an achievement we should strive for. As long as you walk this earth there will always be a party to attend. Place your focus on other things. The not so obvious meaning is probably a bigger life lesson because we allow negative energy in when we shouldn’t. Pick your battles wisely.

29. Travel More- Another obvious statement. Some of my most memorable experiences were outside the country away from civilization.  Experiences will always trump material things.  You have money to eat out or buy new clothes/shoes then you have money to travel. Very few regret going to a new place just to explore. Oh, and let go of those party destinations too. They are great when you are young but there will always be Miami. The dopest trip I been on thus far was when I hiked the Grand Canyon and was not drunk in sight. Go see the world you won't regret it.

28. If You Don’t Ask, You Won’t Get – What do the kids say now? Shoot your shot… The worst that can happen is being told no. Oh I forgot my paypal is laurenglaze@hotmail.com if you want to send me any money electronically to celebrate my birthday.

27. Talk Less, Do More – This social media age has a tendency of making things appear more than what they are in reality. With that, talk has just became even cheaper. Show the world your results instead of telling them what you plan on doing. You will get more respect just by showing your success than telling.

26. Make New Friends - Probably the one thing I hate about this generation is how one catchy song can influence people’s thought processes. “No new friends” is a dumb idiotic statement. Life is about growth so we will always make new friends along the way if we are growing. Be open to always meeting someone new.

25.  You Are Not Alone – As an introvert it is easy to be a loner but the truth is we are not put on this earth to be alone. Ask someone for help, seek out friends. It makes zero sense to go through anything by yourself. There will always be someone even if it is a stranger. This works in another way too. Be kind when you meet people because you just never know what someone is going through.

24. Be Your Own Best Friend – As an introvert this was easy but I recognized extroverted people loathe alone time. Sometimes in this bustling world you need to just stop and listen to your mind. You can mediate or take yourself on a shopping spree. Take some time and focus on the most important person in your life. YOU!

23. Make Your Own Mistakes...BUT Learn From Others Too – Life is really the best teacher. Some mistakes you just have to learn for yourself but the older you get start paying attention to those older and wiser. Having a large circle of female friends every single one of us came across an ain't shit nig... man, and every single one of us had to learn ourselves. Now those chicks better know better. At this point everyone needs to get a mentor. Someone we can truly learn from at any age. 

22. Forgive, ALWAYS – Holding in any negative emotion in is deadly. Forgiveness is more for you than the other person. There is a great strength in letting things go. I am not saying to allow other to mistreat you but when you forgive you are releasing the negative someone put in your life. Oh ALWAYS REMEMBER! Forgive and forget my ass. That was a phrase they taught slaves to keep them in slavery. Remember what people do to you but you have to forgive because we all make mistakes. Forgive!

21. Write Down Your Goals – Over maybe the past 7-8 years I started to recognize how things manifested in my life. One simple way to control your manifestations is to write down what you want from the smallest to the largest then put it away. Again this is a part of the letting go process because we get anxious and that blocks our blessings. I look back at things I wrote in amazement because it eventually manifested without me worrying.

Well that’s all I have for you today come back tomorrow for my next 10. They are even better. In the meantime seriously write down something you want in life. Don't forget to if you see me I like money and Henny. I have bout two more nights to be ain't shit. 

Until Tomorrow....


Lauren
@thelaurenway